Why Unexpected Gifts are the Best Kind

Posted by on Apr 18, 2012 in General, Weddings | 2 Comments

When I think back to holidays past (birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, etc.) and my very favorite gifts from each, I notice they have one thing in common.  They weren’t expected.

I don’t mean expected in the sense that I got a gift at all, but what the gift was, was unexpected.  For Christmas every year I’m asked to make a list of things I want/need.  As an educator (AKA someone who doesn’t make a whole lot of money), it was always nice to have some help with expensive, yet necessary products.  I’ve received Frontline (flea and tick medicine for those without pets) for many Christmases in the past. Expensive?  Yup.  Needed?  Absolutely!  Much appreciated due to how much money it saved me?  Heck yeah!!!  I’ve received socks, household cleaners, tupperware, kitchen supplies, and the list goes on and on.

While I needed, and appreciated, all of them, if someone asked me to name my favorite Christmas gift last year, it wasn’t the Frontline.  One of my favorites WAS a gift I received from my now brother-in-law.  Due to my love of taking pictures and video, he bought me an Eye-Fi card.  For those who don’t know what that is, check it out.  It’s AMAZING.  When you take pictures, it wirelessly uploads them to your computer without ever having to plug in your camera. I’d heard of it before, but it never made my list of ‘must-have’ items.  Once I got it, however, I’m not sure how I ever lived without it.  LOVE. IT.  Plus, it showed me he paid enough attention to know what I was interested in, and what I could really use AND enjoy.

So while some could argue it would have been safer for him to have bought me one of the items off of my clear and detailed list, I would argue the payoff for his risky decision was a lot higher.

The moral of this story?  Every time we’re invited to a wedding we’re left to think about the best gift to get the couple.  Because it’s so risky to purchase an item not on their registry, we rarely do it.  We instead stick with the stainless steel tissue box cover, or the nice wood cutting board.  While I’m sure these items have been used over the years, I would argue the risky decision to buy something not on the registry can yield a much higher pay-off.  While they know they need that brand new Cuisinart food processor, I promise it won’t be the wedding gift they remember 20 years from now.

This is where a gift of wedding video comes in.

Right now videos are often seen as an ‘extra’, and something that doesn’t make that original list of wedding must haves.  I know this because plenty of brides, and friends, have told me.  If they have money leftover at the end of getting all the necessities, they’d consider it.  If not?  Oh well.

Yet when I’ve talked to brides that I’ve worked with, and others who have decided to invest in a video, not a single one regrets the choice.  In fact, almost all have listed it as one of the best decisions they made.  I received an e-mail recently from a bride whose wedding I filmed last year, and unfortunately they had a lot of complications with their photographer.  After explaining all the details she closed with this,

Your video was really the only thing that kept me from being utterly crushed because I knew we at least had that to remember the day by… seriously… you have no idea how much it means to us!


Wedding memories are changing, and while pictures are absolutely vital (and I am certainly not advocating you replace your photographer with a videographer), there’s a different benefit that comes from a wedding video.

The ability for those not in attendance to feel like they were.  Inviting your children 10 years from now to attend the day that started it all.  While pictures can do part of this, they absolutely can’t do it the way a video can.  The ability for a couple to relive their day, down to the very small details, over and over again, is done best with video.  In many cases I’ve even heard from brides “I didn’t even know you were filming that!”, or “I had no idea that happened!”  They day can be such a blur, that having it all on video allows you to slow down and really appreciate every piece of it.

So whether you’re thinking about your own wedding, or one of 12 weddings you’re attending this year, consider giving the gift of a wedding video.  In a wedding?  What a great gift for the bridal party to give to the bride together!  Relative of the bride and debating the perfect gift?  You could buy her the dress, which is an expensive necessity for sure, or go with the unexpected gift that will benefit the couple for the next 40 years, as opposed to just their wedding day.

If you don’t believe me, take a second to watch this highlight video:


  1. Cheryl
    Apr 22, 2012

    While talking with a co-worker the other day about my wedding he mentioned that his three children watch him and his wife’s wedding video on a regular basis and they love it!! What a great way to relive such a memorable experience years after and to share it with those who couldn’t make it or who weren’t even born yet. =)

  2. Salim
    Jul 13, 2012

    Getting a good videographer for our daghtuer’s wedding was the best thing we spent money on. We relive those moments over and over again. We also had a same day edit which our wedding guests were mesmerized by even the ones who were actually there.

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